Black Holes Go 'Mano a Mano'
October 6, 2009
Credits: X-ray: NASA/CXC/MIT/C.Canizares, M.Nowak; Optical: NASA/STScI
(PhysOrg.com) -- Two black holes in galaxy NGC 6240 are only 3,000 light years apart -- and getting closer.
This image of NGC 6240 contains new X-ray data from Chandra (shown in red, orange, and yellow) that has been combined with an optical image from the Hubble Space Telescope originally released in 2008. In 2002, the discovery of two merging black holes was announced based on Chandra data in this galaxy. The two black holes are a mere 3,000 light years apart and are seen as the bright point-like sources in the middle of the image.
Scientists think these black holes are in such close proximity because they are in the midst of spiraling toward each other -- a process that began about 30 million years ago. It is estimated that the two black holes will eventually drift together and merge into a larger black hole some tens or hundreds of millions of years from now.
Finding and studying merging black holes has become a very active field of research in astrophysics. Since 2002, there has been intense interest in follow-up observations of NGC 6240 by Chandra and other telescopes, as well as a search for similar systems. Understanding what happens when these exotic objects interact with one another remains an intriguing question for scientists.
The formation of multiple systems of supermassive black holes should be common in the Universe, since many galaxies undergo collisions and mergers with other galaxies, most of which contain supermassive black holes. It is thought that pairs of massive black holes can explain some of the unusual behavior seen by rapidly growing supermassive black holes, such as the distortion and bending seen in the powerful jets they produce. Also, pairs of massive black holes in the process of merging are expected to be the most powerful sources of gravitational waves in the Universe.
Provided by Chandra X-ray Observatory



I suspect what is now called a black hole are gravistars that do not have infinite density.
standing wave solutions in the total interval 0 < r < co at certain real frequencies. This means that we can see into these black holes at these frequencies with
gravitational-wave detectors, studying the radial structure inside the event
horizon. too."
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The process is probably a result of drag from material in the galaxy (as you suggests). When the black holes gets very close to each other the system also loses momentum by emission of gravitational waves.
To some extent yes but neutron stars can only grow to about 1.4 solar masses before they collapse.
Before you can assume that there are no gravitational waves you'll have to come forth with a sound theory that tells us that there are no such waves.
As long as we don't have this kind of theory it's only a matter of measurement sensitivity.